Would you raise your children like your parents raised you?

13.06.2025 02:01

Would you raise your children like your parents raised you?

My parents drank, smoked, and my father abused ma while she hit back, so they preferred to do that and treated me like a roommate.

Thankfully they’ve grown up very well and I’m extremely proud of them.

Hell fucking no. I was raised with no rules, guidance, or discipline. I am very lucky that I preferred reading over everything and bitched when I couldn’t do so.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I still struggle nowadays because I want to make sure my kids are safe and healthy, and I tend to overreact because I don’t want my kids growing up like I did.